I want to wish all great grandmothers, grandmothers, mothers, sisters and daughters a happy mother's day.
(My son Xavier wanted to pick me all the flowers, but we decided on taking them home in a picture format.)
One of the most beautiful blessings in life is the presence of a child. No matter if the child is biological or not, being around a child as it grows up is amazing. The funny thing about time (for many) is that time has the ability to soften memories of hardship and struggle while enhancing the cherished ones.
My husband and I have come to the agreement that our youngest boy Xavier will be the last child we have. My eldest son Duncan is turning 18 this year, and it just goes to show that time stops for no one.
It is sometimes hard to choose to be present with people I love. I might be there, but my thoughts and actions are elsewhere. It is a bad habit that we should get rid of it post haste and treat like the bubonic plague. I work on seeking out moments of joy with people I care about on a daily basis, no matter how small or insignificant it may seem at the moment. As I have recorded them, these moments have become a large treasure combined. It takes a lot of effort to include and invite people into activities and chores. How many times do we get-to-it by ourselves because it seems faster, easier and better that way?
Well, I will continue to refuse to hop on the grind train, and will not allow people and time to pass through my life as if I was in drunken haze, only to come up for air and a memorable view every decade or so.
Our family were forced to start anew when we moved to Sweden. All we previously knew came to a halt and was done away with. We were given an opportunity to recalibrate our path through life. Our family gained a focus on appreciating each other; deal with each other justly and with love and respect. Jeffrey and I decided to care more for eachother and work more as a team. When our children see us together, they know with certainty that we belong. We are one. All have a voice in our home, all are seen and heard. Our time best spent is with each other. We chose to raise a family by being active examples; talk and preach less - actively interact more. We live by the phrase "talk is cheap" and "walk the talk! Give it a try. It is good stuff for all.
Happy mother’s day to all important examples out there! Take a moment to write down and document a cherished memory and keep it safe. You will not regret it.
